This morning was classic: A’s homework wasn’t done, so he needed to get to school early; C doesn’t like to make his lunch until morning and discovered that we were out of bread five minutes before departure; O couldn’t find his raincoat; and it was pouring rain…which also meant the traffic was going to be horrific.

Sitting in traffic with grumpy children freaking out about being late, negativity rising quickly, I tried to remind them myself of what really matters: We are healthy, blessed, and have some extra time together this morning. But it didn’t come out well. It came out as yelling, harping, “Do you know how lucky you are?!” and led to my boys asking to start taking the bus at 6:45 am. Not a good start for anyone’s day.

Sitting peacefully in my office now feeling like a failure, it’s time to reset. This isn’t the first negative morning drive. This habitual pattern, or samskara, is one that I have the power to shift. Non-reacting, non-elevating, undoing…that will be my mantra. It doesn’t mean I’ll be jolly the next time negative energy starts to rise. But I’m going to stop, breathe, and shift my thoughts from negative to neutral.

How about you?

You have the power and the wisdom to let go of anything that you’re willing to release. And all you have to do is…nothing. That’s what’s great about undoing. Something happens when the mind gets quiet and the body’s energy begins to flow. The automatic release of negativity and baggage is a by-product of a quiet mind. And the result? Inner peace.

—Steve Ross with Olivia Rosewood, Happy Yoga: 7 Reasons Why There’s Nothing to Worry About