Have you tried meditation and noticed when you close your eyes, your eyes still flutter? I know there are lots of reasons, but for me it’s mostly thinking. Rapid thinking. Mind fluttering. It’s getting harder and harder to be present.
I see it in my kids. I see it in my friends. I see it in those who are suffering emotionally, physically. I see it in myself.
It’s really about how we get to happy. My happy is moving, being connected to people and causes, experiencing the noise and the quiet. (Especially getting to the quiet for me.) The place where the shoulds and “what will they think” and “what could I be doing right now” and “where am I going next” aren’t taking over my everything.
Breath is what gets me there. The exhale especially – the literal and figurative exhale. This is hard today. There are so many pulls and tugs and e-mails and phone calls and things that feel like they need tending to.
So our home base, our way of getting to calm or zen or content or good or really good — depends on how we practice our exhale. How we release what we don’t need, what we’ve felt and learned from, and what doesn’t have anything to do with us. Discerning what is helpful, needed data and that which is tugging at our heart self.
I want to know. I want to understand how someone living in poverty can be so much happier than a person with a lot more resources. How laughing and play are natural, and most often unintentional, mindfulness exercises.
These are among the reasons I’m so excited about The Exhale Project. I’ll be asking lots of people how they breathe through life, or in other words, how they get back to their center. Having your own back, making friends with yourself…can seem far out.
But it’s everything.